The China Mail - Grief, trauma weigh on survivors of catastrophic Hong Kong fire

Yip, 68, is among thousands grieving the 161 killed at the Wang Fuk Court housing complex, a disaster few could imagine happening in one of Asia's safest and most developed cities.

Even as the Hong Kong government forges ahead with investigations and relief efforts, experts caution that the psychological scars will be hard to heal for survivors, bereaved families and onlookers alike.

In dozens of shots compiled into a memorial video, Yip's wife of four decades, Pak Shui-lin, 66, gently smiles at the camera at the Pyramids of Giza, the Taj Mahal and the Eiffel Tower.

"I blame myself. I always feel I was late to warn her, so she couldn't escape in time," said retired engineer Yip, recalling how the couple tried to flee the burning building on November 26.

Flames quickly engulfed seven out of eight residential towers, which were undergoing renovations and wrapped in substandard netting that may have contributed to the fire's spread.

Yip got out first. When the fire alarms failed to sound, his wife knocked on neighbours' doors to warn them, according to one person she saved.

Yip said he did not think Pak was trying to "exchange one life for another", only that she was "doing what needed to be done".

"The difference of a few minutes between us means that I will never see her again. That's what I can't accept."

- Like fighting a war 'every day' -

Not long after the fire started, counselling psychologist Isaac Yu helped organise dozens of others in his field to support displaced residents.

"The scale, immediacy and level of shock of this (incident) were beyond" anything they had trained for, Yu said.

Those who lost everything might have appeared calm at first, he recalled, but the fear was that they would break down during quiet moments and develop post-traumatic stress disorder.

NGOs such as the Samaritan Befrienders have contacted bereaved families to offer free mental-health services, with additional support available in transitional housing and schools, authorities said.

Many of Hong Kong's 7.5 million residents obsessively followed live updates of the fire, which could have caused them mental strain, Yu added.

"For those who don't actively seek help, I'm worried about missing the chance to intervene, which may lead to more serious mental health problems and tragedies," he said.

Johnson Wong, a 51-year-old business manager, told AFP that his family struggled to process their grief while two of their relatives remained unaccounted for.

While most of the bodies have been identified, some remains have turned to ash and time-consuming DNA tests are needed, police said, adding the death toll could rise further.

Wong's wife, a nurse, had hoped that her mother and sister would survive. But her worst fears were all but confirmed when she was shown pictures of two charred bodies found inside their flat.

"If the (DNA test) is a match, that marks an ending. But if not, what can we do?" Wong said, adding that the fire had likely deprived his niece, a university student, of her only remaining parent.

"Every day we have been fighting a war... It will take a long time to calm the family."

- 'Incomprehensible' -

As Hong Kong marks the festive season, more than 4,600 people displaced by the fire still rely on temporary accommodation including hotels, according to Hong Kong's government.

Some elderly people who were shunted into unfamiliar districts have had trouble adapting, according to local media.

Having moved in with his sons, Yip said his "unrealistic" wish was for his home to be rebuilt the way it was.

The government has yet to commit to renovating or knocking down the ruined estate, and industry figures say resettlement will take years.

On Tuesday, a judge-led committee visited the site as part of an investigation that is expected to yield a report in nine months.

Police said in early December that 21 people linked to various construction and contractor firms had been arrested, most for manslaughter and some for fraud. Those numbers have not been updated since.

Yip said he hoped the authorities would find the truth in the many "incomprehensible" aspects of the tragedy, but Wong was less sanguine.

"Getting an answer is better than none, but can it restore what we lost?" Wong said.

"What we need most are our family members. Two of them are gone."

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